If you are having conversations in your mind it’s because you didn’t feel heard when you originally had the conversation by the other person. You can stop these repeating conversations by allowing them to play out and allowing yourself to feel how you feel or how you would have felt at the time.
Allow yourself to say anything that you would have liked to have said but didn’t have the opportunity at the time. It does not matter that the person is longer standing in front of you to hear the conversation. You can say it out loud to yourself. You can write a letter to the person, even if you don't give it to them.
You are the one that needs to feel heard, that is why it keeps playing out in your mind. Listen to yourself when the other person wouldn’t and that conversation will stop playing out in your mind.
That incarnation of you will feel heard and no longer have a reason to keep coming back to your conscience awareness. Once again, a repeating thought our conversation within the mind, is a past incarnation that didn’t feel heard and/or validated.
Instead of attempting to “fight the demons in your head”, realize that they aren’t demons but simply past versions of yourself in need of something. In psychology this is referred to as healing the inner child, but we have an inner version of all of our past incarnations, not just the ones within our childhood.
When we attempt to fight our past selves, we create chaos which leads to anxiety and depression. These attempts can also lead to confusion, a feeling of isolation and deep loneliness.
Give that past incarnation validation and they will be silent. We all have the power to heal our past selves, and present selves, and it’s not hard. Most of us simply weren’t taught how to validate our own emotions or to heal our past selves. Which is why so many of us believe that we need someone else to complete us.
We believe that we need another being to validate us, to feel heard, feel seen, feel Loved. That is a false belief, in truth we have the ability to Love ourselves completely without “needing” anyone else. That does not mean we can’t have personal relationships anymore.
In truth by not needing others for validation and to feel heard. We are able to Love those around us more purely and selflessly. When we no longer “need” someone, we no longer try to use them for the thing in which we seek. We Love them just because of who they are.
When we Love all of ourselves, we are in turn able Love all of those around us, not out of necessity but out of choice. It’s a much purer Love than most of us are even aware of being possible. We can choose to Love without any needs. Peace and Love!